Friday, May 1, 2015

WHEN HOME LEFT MY DAUGHTER

Danna Shirley

            I guess the usual process of a child’s progression to maturity is to be born into a family, attend school, graduate, and leave home for college. For my daughter, however, it was just the opposite. She didn’t leave home . . . home left her!
            Kristen’s best friends were Kristy Reynolds and Dana Lyons. Kristy was an only child and Dana the middle child of three. Kristen was like the sister Kristy never had and like a daughter to her parents, Terry and Anna Reynolds. There were lots of sleepovers and shared experiences as these three were growing up. Even when Kristen married, she had co-maids of honor, Kristy and Dana, because she couldn’t choose between them. 
            After graduation from Vancleave High School in 1989, Kristen remained at home while she attended our local junior college for two years. Just as she was planning her next move our family made its next move . . . to Japan. My husband Ron had been offered a great opportunity with his company and we decided a two-year term overseas would not interfere with Kristen’s plans to move into the dorm at the University of Southern Mississippi in Hattiesburg. When she was between semesters and on Christmas break, she would join us in Japan. What none of us considered, however, were her empty weekends? Hattiesburg was just ninety minutes away but she would have no place to come home to between Friday afternoon and Sunday evening.
            When Terry and Anna heard that she would be staying in the dorm 24/7, they quickly came to our rescue. They had already been treating her has a second daughter for some time so it was no jump at all to invite her to their home for weekends. She had her own bedroom and key and came and went as she pleased. Not only did they adopt her but the entire Reynolds family became hers, aunts, uncles, grandparents, cousins, all of them regarded her as family.   
            When Ron had a two-week stay in Hawaii for sea trials during Christmas of 1993, my sons Russ and Aaron, and I tagged along from Japan and Kristen and Kristy flew over from Mississippi and met us. It was a special treat for both the girls and for the whole family as well. While Ron worked, we played and when he was able, he joined us. We took the girls parasailing, the boys rode ski-doos, and of course there was the inevitable luau. It was a memorable trip for us all.
          Ron and I were so grateful for the Reynolds’ care of our daughter because our two years in Japan stretched into five. We never worried that Kristen was alone or lonely for she was well loved. Even today, she considers Terry and Anna as her second father and mother. They sat in the front pew, bride’s side, at her wedding right along with Ron and me. They receive cards, calls, e-mails, and pictures of the grandgirls, Emma and Bella, just as I do. Home may have left our daughter but she found a new one in Gautier, Mississippi.

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