© Danna Shirley
Taking him for granted . . .
Some
widows choose not to remain in the house they shared with their husband. It is
too difficult and distressing to be there alone.
One widow
told me she stays with her daughter every Thursday night because her husband
died on a Thursday.
Another
moved into her guest bedroom because she couldn’t sleep alone in the bed they
had shared.
After
relating their feelings, I wondered if my reaction wasn’t normal. I moved over
to Ron’s side of the bed. I even slept on his pillow. I wanted to get as close
to his memory as I could. God brought comfort to me there.
I miss
being kissed and hugged and patted and loved. I’m sure we’ve all used the, “Not
tonight, Dear,” routine, but now I would give anything to have him beside me
once again.
Ron was
unselfish in his gifts. He allowed me to go and do and buy. The five years we
lived in Japan he worked long hours and I ‘played’
with my friends . . . shopping, lunch, more shopping. Looking back now, I know
I didn’t show him the gratitude he deserved, I didn’t consider the freedom he
gave me, I didn’t express my thanks sufficiently. No, I just assumed it was my right and his obligation.
All of
these feelings add up to one thing . . . ‘taking him for granted’ sets in and
the wish that I could say and do all that I should have when he was still with
me. But you have that opportunity now; don’t overlook it, don’t ignore it,
don’t dismiss it!
LIFE TO CONSIDER . . .
It is my desire
to have a happy marriage and live with a contented husband. My marriage
is for life; therefore I will consider . . .
During
those times that I have taken my husband for granted, I will think of ways I
can view him differently and make every effort to value him.
How can I
express my gratitude even for the little things?
How can I
deliberately show my appreciation?
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